It’s sad that I even need to do this write up at all. This should be a given.
The abandonment of littles is rampant in this lifestyle right now, and that is NOT ok. If you even for one second think you are interested in being a caregiver then you really need to think about everything it entails.
The flat out abandonment of a little is NOT ok. Caregivers if you lose interest you NEED to express this to them. There is a relationship at the heart and soul of the dynamic. Just out right ignoring them is the most UNHEALTHY and DAMAGING thing you can do to a little.
Yes littles can be clingy and starved for attention, if that’s something you aren’t ok with then possibly being a caregiver is not right for you. Yes littles fall and they can fall fast. Yes littles can become attached and quickly! But if you enter into this dynamic with them you are promising to be there for them. If you suddenly drop off the face of the earth or just stop talking to them you are doing SERIOUS Damage. Imagine how scarred that would leave a child! One minute their parent is there the next they are not! (now I am only using that as an analogy) But in the mind of a little it can often be the same exact thing.
If you are going to be away or out of contact for an extended amount of time you NEED to warn them before hand.
Communication is key in this dynamic or any relationship for that matter. Desires and expectations need to be talked through before even entering into a relationship. Littles can be very fragile, they can also be very strong but they deserve to know what’s going on.
I was apart of the vanilla world for a very long time, never once did a guy just drop off the face of the earth. It wasn’t until I entered into this CGL world did I realize people did that.
If you are willing to call yourself someones “mommy or daddy or caregiver” then you need to be willing to explain to them when things go south or are no longer working for you. Do not just up and leave them high and dry waiting for a response or for you to answer their calls.
This is a world of HUGE vulnerability and responsibility depending on the party. If someone opens up their heart to you, then you need to take action and either protect them or informing them that it’s not going to work.
I can guarantee a simple message of “we need to break up” will be much easier for a little to handle than complete avoidance or ignoring. If you’re willing to enter into this dynamic then you owe them that much.
Now for all of you littles who have faced abandonment recently.
- You are perfect.
- You deserve better.
- Don’t ever settle
- This is a reflection of them, not you.
- You are beautiful/handsome.
- We are here for you.
- Don’t dwell.
Yes us littles can be clingy, but don’t ever think that you were too clingy. It’s possible they didn’t realize the responsibility of being a Daddy would entail.
Don’t fall for those lines, as littles we can learn to see through their BS. Be guarded but not so guarded you come off as prickly. Just protect yourselves. Learn to not fall for every creep who calls you “little one, babygirl, princess” or whatever. Turn it into an interview. Get your friends involved and have them help you. Much like in real life when we were younger having to go on group dates. Don’t allow just anyone into your precious hearts.
It’s ok to feel sad about being left, but don’t allow it to turn you bitter. And whatever you do, don’t unpack and live in the sadness. Your perfect someone is out there.
Eat some of your favorite snacks, watch your favorite movies, maybe join in on a sing along here and there, color some pictures, or maybe take yourself shopping for some new clothes. Do some things to boost your mood and you will soon forget that yucky caregiver even existed.
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Lolo & The Playground
3. How did you pick which age(s) fit your regressive side best?— I wouldn’t say I ever “picked” them. I just paid attention to the things I was drawn to. Also I’m a nanny so I used that knowledge of like “this behavior fits this age group” type stuff.
4. What are the top three things that trigger regression into your Little space?
top three things: music, TV shows, mood.
21. Share a naughty DD/lg taboo or fantasy!— This isn’t really DDlg but I have developed a bit of a rape play fantasy.
25. What are 3 of your Hard Limits?— oh gosh really only 3. umm
- Urine/Poop play